Rewriting My Story: From Chronic Victim to Courageous, Passionate Woman

Rewriting My Story: From Chronic Victim to Courageous, Passionate Woman - Kat Gal

I had this story about my life. It was a good one. Until it stopped working.

I had this story of this girl: a girl that was abused by her father as a child and as a teen; a girl that was not loved by her mother; a girl that was just a foreigner in the big USA, an innocent little one; a girl with disadvantages and no money; a girl whose visa expired so she had to leave; a girl that was trying to do good in the world through low-paying jobs as a researcher and educator; a girl that had her running dream broken, her passion taken by chronic hip pains; a girl whose boyfriend was far away (and, oh boy, was that long distance tough); a girl with an eating disorder and depression; a girl—the worst of all—with non-stop chronic headaches…

This girl was a fighter, and yet, she was a victim. She had her reasons. She had her story.

For a while, the story worked. People helped. People cared. People occasionally listened, sometimes threw in money, and, at times, simply tolerated her.

After a while, the story didn’t work as well. People listened less. People cared less, got frustrated.

One day, the story stopped working completely—because the girl stopped believing in it.

I suppose it was more of a gradual process building up to the big recognition, but suddenly, I knew: it was just a story. More importantly, I knew that I was not my story.

I was the writer of that sad old tale. And I knew, because I’d written the tragedy, I could write something better.

At first, I wanted to erase all the old chapters. I wanted to tear out the sheets and burn them. But I didn’t. These chapters got me to where I was. I let them live.

So, instead, I grabbed a new pen. I jumped out of victim mode. I switched gears, got into the driver seat of my life, and began a fresh, new chapter.

My transformation began.

I forgave my father. I healed my chronic headaches. I changed my career, finally following my calling to be a coach and writer.

But that is not the end of it. That is not even the point of it.

The point is that I finally took charge: I realized that I had the power and the responsibility to change direction. I made choices that led me towards my dreams. I led myself in the direction of happiness, health, self-love, and freedom.

Rome wasn’t built in a day and I am not perfect, only human. I still have ways to go, some chapters to edit, and many new chapters to write with purpose and passion each day.

My power comes from knowing that I’m not my old story. And, perhaps, I’m not even my new story. Who I am is a passionate woman on a beautiful journey taking some courageous and inspiring steps forward each day. And that is more than enough.

Kat Gal

Kat Gal

Kat Gál is a Holistic Health & Happiness Coach guiding women to feel empowered to get out of the roller-coaster of chronic emotional and physical pain, and enter into a world of confidence, self-love, energy, happiness, health and freedom. She also specializes in healing from child abuse working with women who have survived the trauma of growing up in a dysfunctional family and the trauma of abuse experienced as a child or teen. She is the creator of the popular Your 21-Day Mind-Body-Soul Shake-Up! (w)holistic cleanse and an author of several ebooks, including 365 Days of Journaling. Kat invites you to join her Facebook group “You are enough! You deserve to be happy, healthy and loved”, a safe sanctuary for women on healing, sharing and living. You can follow her via her website on holistic health and happiness, by signing up to her newsletter and following her on Facebook.

13 Responses

  1. Julia says:

    Oh yes, I love this. May we all write such empowering stories for ourselves.

  2. Heather Bromley says:

    Thanks for sharing your story Kat, it’s so important for people to realise that they are the TRUE creators of their own life, not the past, and not a story that they tell to themselves over and over, you share a great message to us all x

  3. Catherine Basu says:

    Thank you for sharing your story. While I have not gone through what you have, I have had some traumas in my life and, like you, had to take charge to get out of a funk. The result for me has been amazing. So glad you are sharing to inspire others. Taking that first step to get out of the old story and transform can be so hard. It’s important for those still stuck to be able to read stories like yours. Thank you!

  4. Kat, thanks so much for sharing your courage with us. You could have stayed in that old story, but instead decided to step into your power and live a life of your own choosing. So beautiful and inspiring.

    “Who I am is a passionate woman on a beautiful journey taking some courageous and inspiring steps forward each day. And that is more than enough.” – AWESOME.

  5. Reba Linker says:

    The healing from trauma is ongoing. And you are right the answer is rewriting our story, or rather, claiming our true story, the one in which we are, truly empowered. I loved the share and wish you much success.

  6. This is so relatable, Kat. I could have written it myself. I know many girls who are still trapped in that chronic victim mentality, awaiting their own recognition of their power. It’s when women like you come out and tell your story that those girls see what’s possible. So thank you. From all of us. 🙂

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