How Oscar Wilde Cured My Depression

How Oscar Wilde Cured My Depression - Dr. Erin Stair

When I became depressed, I was also anxious, stressed, sleep deprived, eating terribly, and poorly focused. Simply put, I was everything bad.

It was the embodiment of the chicken/egg dilemma. I had no way of knowing if poor sleep and a terrible diet were leading to my depressed and anxious state, or vice versa. Maybe they were all sadistic teammates, fueling each other.

Either way, my limbs felt colder and heavier with each passing day, as if I was slowly turning into the world’s saddest statue. Any feelings of happiness and joy were reduced to tantalizing twitches. Unless I was destined to play the Tinman in a perpetual playing of The Wizard of Oz in some cruel alternative universe, it was pure, catatonic Hell.

As a young doctor and wellness professional, I logically knew I had to do something. Having been schooled in Western medicine, I did what I thought was the next best step. I saw a psychiatrist. My psychiatrist was nice enough, smart enough, and put me on an antidepressant—the “standard of care.” She didn’t, however, give me any advice on sleep hygiene, diet, or natural prevention tips. Still, I dutifully swallowed my pill every morning for the next 5 months. And I waited, and I waited, and I waited…

Then I stopped. I stopped, because I didn’t feel less depressed. I felt more tranquilized, as if my ability to express myself was a shoe stuck in gum. As a writer, the feeling was torturous. My mouth was constantly dry, as if it became a storage bin for invisible cotton balls. I constantly felt nauseous and asexual, which did nothing for my diminished romantic life.

I felt like the pills transformed me from a depressed blob to a soulless blob. They weren’t working for me and I had to find a different solution.

My search for a better answer stemmed from a quote by Oscar Wilde, one of my favorite writers. He said, “Nothing can cure the soul but the senses, just as nothing can cure the senses but the soul.”  He’s Irish, I’m Irish—we get each other. Perhaps if I figured out how to replenish my senses, I’d get my soul back. While there is an art to medicine, there is an awful lot of medicine in art.

To address taste, I researched the best diet for depression. The results of my research guided me to switch to a Mediterranean-based diet. I also made sure I ate a lot of tasty dishes with omega-three fatty acids, Magnesium, Vitamin B12, and Tryptophan. I ditched all processed and addicting sugary foods. I also ditched artificial sweeteners and foods in packages containing perfluorinated compounds.

Next I worked on remodeling my sense of smell, which introduced me to the amazing and underutilized world of aromatherapy. Many plants and herbs produce naturally uplifting aromas, and I began using the plants in my cleaning products, growing them in my garden, and rubbing the leaves on my neck or wrists as a homemade “antidepressant” perfume. My antidepressant aromas included: rose, lavender, lemon, bergamot, orange, sandalwood, jasmine, and mandarin. I used to joke that my favorite line of perfume was by “The Woods.”

In search of giving my sight a soul-nourishing, antidepressant makeover, I found myself fascinated by nature therapy and color therapy. Color therapy is rooted in the theory that different colors stimulate different moods. For example, oranges and greens can be uplifting. While I don’t think Crayola can cure depression, I think adding a little color to one’s life can’t hurt. Nature therapy is based on the idea that being in a natural green environment or even looking at pictures of natural scenery has an antidepressant effect. There is legitimate research to support Nature therapy.

So, I went on more road trips outside the business-colored boundaries of my vertical concrete human trap (New York City) in search of nature. And I found nature and I felt better in nature. I even photographed nature, so I could hang up pictures of nature in my apartment and be reminded of its mysterious soothing properties. Although my relationship with nature was long-distance, it was one of those rare long-distance relationships worth nurturing.

For touch, I focused on the power of human touch. There is something magical about being held by a significant other or hugged by a good friend. Perhaps the magic is as simple as feeling less alone. Current society doesn’t foster deep, meaningful relationships, so, for my heart and my brain, I learned the difference between a greedy grab and a magic touch.

Next up, my ears. On my search to rejuvenate my sense of hearing, I noticed that I felt better in nature while listening to nature sounds. Nature sounds made me feel less depressed, more relaxed, and filled me with a much-needed dose of calm. I lived in the city. The chaotic chorus of constant construction, impatient horns honking, and overworked people grumbling and mumbling made me feel stressed and anxious. Therefore, I began listening to CDs of nature sounds on a regular basis.

My pursuit for a more soulful sense of hearing also introduced me to the world of binaural beats, isochronic tones, and specific sound sequencing. I found research that showed these sounds can actually change the brain, immediately. I began listening to different combinations of binaural beats and isochronic tones, and then, eventually, I started working with a team of scientists in Germany and creating my own soundtracks.

I don’t know for sure what Oscar Wilde meant by his quote. He’s dead, so I can’t ask him, and I have no idea where my ouija board is. All I know is that I interpreted his art in a way that saved my soul, and, in essence, my life. There are times I still struggle, and I probably always will, but now it is a struggle that I can embrace and handle.

For me, a makeover of the senses was just what I needed when my journey seemed unbearable.

Dr. Erin Stair

Dr. Erin Stair

Erin is a doctor who runs BloomingWellness based in New York City. Blooming Wellness focuses on evidence-based healthy lifestyle changes and stress reduction techniques. Erin is the creator of ZENBands and ZENTones, programs offered on her website that help with stress, anxiety, poor sleep, and low mood. Erin’s also a West Point graduate, former Army officer, and in addition to her medical degree, she holds a Masters of Public Health from New York University. She is a former Division 1 soccer player, a violinist, and she runs, swims, and practices Krav Maga weekly.

9 Responses

  1. Iva K says:

    Beautifully written. What a way to approach depression! Definitely worth trying. Oscar Wilde is a great inspiration.

  2. What a beautiful post sharing your transformative process! I have supported my daughter through years of chronic migraines and deeply appreciate your healing journey. Thank you so much for sharing all your wisdom and healing practices!

  3. Lea Tran says:

    Loved reading how nature can re-awaken our senses and help us feel more alive 🙂

  4. Wow, this is beautiful! And that you took that Oscar Wilde quote and used it to create your sacred self-cures, awesome!

  5. Tae Lynne says:

    I love this post! I’ve suffered with bouts of depression and have found that diet, exercise and nature walks have a huge impact on me as well. I’m glad you learned to embrace & handle your anxieties. Here’s to your continued success. 🙂

  6. Jill Celeste says:

    As someone who suffers from anxiety and depression – though not as badly as I used to – I loved how she awakened and reprogrammed each sense – and in the end, feels so much better. We get inspiration from the darnest places sometimes! =)

  7. Rachel says:

    A beautiful healing story and I love how this one quote opened up a whole world of experiences.

  8. Reba Linker says:

    Great post. Wonderful to take so much from one ‘small’ quote. I’m learning a lot these days about how small can be so big. And you’ve discovered worlds of healing and joy in that one quote. Blessings, Reba

  9. Sabra Zay says:

    Thank you for sharing your journey, I am on a similar one though I approached it differently. I like your methodical, sensual approach.

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